Best City to Raise Kids SF or NY?

I spent a few of my formative years in Manhattan back in the stone ages and have only experienced SF as a parent, so I have mixed feelings about what it would be like raising kids in either city. On the one hand, I see all the cultural reasons why NY might have the upper hand with all the great museums and the many great schools. But I can't really imagine raising kids there now that I'm a parent. Maybe this is only my impression but New York seems like a more dangerous city to raise kids in--not only because of the crime rate, but also because of the more aggressive mentality that seems to pervade the city. It sometimes feels like there is almost a "bunker" mentality in some areas of the Big Apple.

Has living in California just made me soft?
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FlowerGirl 2yrs+
NY? NY! Are u kidding me? Y is everybody so East Coast centric? SF is clearly the most beautiful city in the world. NY has beautiful architecture and loys of history and culture. (I don't know, I've never actually been there.) But it is hella flat and ugly, no? I mean its basically LA on an island w/ snow. And people are rude and its either freezing cold or muggy.

I would trade the whole East Coast for SF.
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Harsh! I think you're underestimating the appeal of NYC. I spent a few years there as a kid and I loved it. Greenwich Village is great! You can't beat the museums. And it is really something to watch the way the snow falls through the lamplight.
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FlowerGirl 2yrs+
Have you looked out the window this morning? Now that is the sort of weather I would like to wake up to. Who wants to shovel snow?
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But it is probably pretty nice in NYC too as it is in the fall. Also, when you're a kid a snow ball fight is a great thing!
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FlowerGirl 2yrs+
Just watch out for the yellow snow right?
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Look, today for example, its 80 and sunny in NY. That's not bad. I wouldn't recommend it in the summer when it gets unbearbable and the middle of the winter can be a bit of a pain. But the weather's pretty nice at other times.
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FlowerGirl 2yrs+
Okay, fair enough about the weather. But I would still rather grow up here.
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New York is more for adult singles than kids and families--especially the Big Apple--and especially if you're not loaded.
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StephSF 2yrs+
I lived in NYC for 4 1/2 years, and have lived in the Bay Area for about 4 1/2 months (with eight months prior in Sac). In my opinion, SF is far more kid-friendly. Many of the neighborhoods in the western part of the city are practically suburbs, with beach access and parks galore. The bus transport to the east side is fairly accessible, culture and diversity abound every which where, and you can actually have a car. Square foot by square foot, it is actually a bit cheaper (although the California taxes probably level the playing field just a little bit).

Interestingly, while it is as diverse as SF, if not moreso, the neighborhoods are actually fairly segregated by race. While interracial mingling is not entirely uncommon, the spread in SF is far more heterogenous than NYC.

In order to get anything similar in New York, you have to venture to the outer boroughs, which offer a bit more of a rough-and-tumble, working-class vibe for a very similar price tag, and a far longer commute to Manhattan than you need in order to get from the West Side to the East Side of SF.

However, I do love New York, and want to clarify a few things -

1. It is most certainly NOT "LA on an island w/ snow." The population density is far greater but traffic is slightly less blocked, although public transport, biking, and walking are by far the most common forms of travel.

2. Believe it or not, the weather is not as bad as some may think. I would say that 50% of the time (spring and fall), NYC has better weather, and SF is better off the other half of the time. Spring and fall are beautiful in NYC, with clear skies and crisp temperatures. Winter is bitterly cold, while summer can be humid and sweltering. San Francisco is cool and foggy the majority of the year, with microclimates and pockets of heat and sunshine. Depending on where you are in the city, the weather can vary greatly.

3. Cultural diversity and activity cannot be beat. It is one of the most exciting, fascinating, multicultural, historical cities in the world. The biggest downfall is the lack of outdoor activities, but even outdoorspeople can get their kicks here if they find the right places to go.

I do think that San Francisco is by far the coolest city in the United States, and a far better place to raise kids, but don't overwrite New York City, as it is a fantastic gem as well.

(Yes, I can go on forever about this topic).
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rockypollr Apr 25, 2019
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