Woman beaten at Social

@JenMac I read about the incident and saw the report on TV as well. Wow that's scary ..all over rejecting a request to dance????

That's terrifying. And a good reminder to always go out with friends/stay safe

Wow, I read that article. What a bastard that guy turned out to be. My girlfriend told me when blackouts occur, you don't know anything of what you are doing. That is the scary part.

Yeah, but a blackout is hardly an excuse. I had my blackout days when I was in college (don't judge) and I never did anything that was grossly out of character. I mean, you don't do something that wasn't already inside of you to begin with.

@JenMac Good point.

Word, @Jenmac. Even under the influence (and I'm a small girl/lightweight who finds herself quite inebriated quite easily), I've never done something I wouldn't have conceivably done while sober

@JenMac the only one time I ever had a blackout happened during my college days though thankfully I was in the company of good friends who made sure I got home in one piece but somewhere that night I dropped a diamond ring that belonged to my mum. I still have regrets about that and now stay as far away as I can from a bottle of Tequila.

@Everybody: I never had a blackout from alcohol. I did have a blackout once while under a prescription drug, but once I was done the medicine, I was okay after that. But during the blackout, I was told by an observer that I just was flat on my back most of the time.

And who knows if he was really blacked out? Could be just a pathetic defense. He seemed to recall things that supposedly happened when he was first questioned by the police anyway. What a scumbag. I have to admit that I have seen more than one guy react badly to rejection at a bar... of course nothing like that. But some guys can be huge jerks when they realize that you don't want them. Why can't people just accept that not everyone is going to be thrilled by your advances?

@NeverSleeps: I re-read the article and did a bit more research. Based on what I read, apparently he gave two conflicting reports to the cops about what happened. The bottom line is he did damage to a woman's face for no reason, other than he was drunk. Now he is going to be punished by the law for doing so. He gets what he deserves. I believe, to hit a woman, you have to be a scumbag. You have to be lower than dirt. I never hit a woman in my life. I respect women and hold them honor. If anything, I will do my best to keep them safe, happy, and entertained when with them.

Wow. This is one of those "What is wrong with people?" stories.

@hhusted That's exactly what I was talking about.

I always find it really troubling when I met or encounter serious misogynists. I'm not talking about guys who make the occasional "woman in a kitchen" joke to try and get laughs among friends (not in the workplace, obviously), or guys who might make a vulgar remark or two about women's behinds - but people who seriously are convinced all women are money-grubbing gold-digging untrustworthy w****res. People seem to be more honest about it on the internet - I read plenty of NY Times blogs about love and marriage, etc, and some of the comments posted by men are really...unsettling. I hope nobody I know in real life is the sort of person who feels that way, but would only post about it anonymously

I've met a guy like that and he is seriously scary. A couple of us heard him call his own mom a see you next tuesday. And, he exhibits a lot of other really bizarre behavior. How does someone become like that? I hope I'm not within 10 city blocks when that guy blows his top.

How do people let guys get away with acting like that? I would never hang out with a guy who could obviously blow up at any time, and I always wonder who could be friends the kind of person. I guess they all just hang out with each other... scary thought.

@JenMac and @Neversleeps: My girlfriend told me a saying her mother heard on the radio one day. "Man love bitches and women love outlaws." It seems that when a man has an edge, he seems exciting to a woman. I'm not talking about all women. It just seems the way some women respond. Actually, when I studied psychology, I noticed the top psychologist in the world had the same theory. I thought it was rather interesting.

It's really creepy, @neversleeps. It's one thing to go for the "bad boy" - but the thing about TV/film bad boys is that they are soft/romantic at heart. Women don't seem to realize that real bad boys are often just that, bad.

@ajadedidealist that's so true but some women find 'bad' boys irresistible.Its the aura of forbidden fruit that they have around them.

@Uptowngirl: I agree with your philosophy about women. I actually studied it myself in psychology class and found what you said to be true.

Isn't it supposed to stem from some sort of father issues? Like reading the same book over and over and expecting a different ending? And, the allure of a bad boy, I think is also the belief that you'll be the one to change them. . . which is all ego.

Le sigh, @jenmac. haven't we all been there? It's one of those shared rites-of-passing experience - first makeup, first bra, first bad boy to break our hearts....

Oh, but of course. I just think that there are a lot of women who never grow out of that. . . which is fine. More nerds for me!

I love the nerd, give me the good sweet nerd any day.

Considering how many unhinged people are walking around this city, I'm sometimes surprised by the fact that more people don't flip their lid.

@JenMac Yes. Or childhood/family issues in general. Both your parents can screw you up to the point where you have intimacy issues - which is was largely causes going after someone unattainable ALL THE TIME. I think people with intimacy issues are attracted to people they can never be close to - such as the aforementioned jerks. At least this is what Dr. Drew would have us believe. @Uraniumfish Agreed.

@Uraniumfish and BroadwayBK ditto